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Have you ever felt that you needed to shrink yourself in order to not intimidate someone?
Or told a small lie or misrepresented yourself to try to impress people?
I have. And I always feel gross afterwards and want to kick myself.
I'm not thinking in that moment and I just do and say things in order to make sure the person or people I am talking to like me.
It seems to happen automatically.
This is something I’ve been working on. Learning to be comfortable in my own skin and not putting so much energy and thought into what the other person is thinking about me.
We will always lose in the end if we pretend to be something we’re not.
I used to be obsessed with having people like me. I would be afraid to speak because I never wanted to offend.
THEN I had this amazing realization. People actually like being around real people.
Just think about the person you are talking about when you say "I love her!"
Usually it’s someone that speaks her truth and is comfortable in her own skin.
You and I can be that bold free spirited person too! We first need to stop worrying so much about what people think about us.
And focus on being our BEST selves.
In order to stop this from happening I’m working on shifting my focus to being my best self.
And not thinking about the outcome.
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I love audiobooks!!
Best way ever to read without reading.
It feels weird saying I just read...when I didn't actually read it.
But what is it called? Most people tell me to just say I "read" it.
I want there to be another word for listening to an audiobook.
Maybe instead of me saying I'm reading, I can say "I'm audiobooking." Yeah?
I don't know. If you have a better idea, please let me know.
So far this year I've listened to 28 audiobooks.
My goal is to get through 35 audiobooks by the end if the year.
Will it be easy? I don't know...
When one has a lot of good information, I listen a second time to soak up all the goodness. So getting through 7 books might be more of a challenge that I think.
We shall see.
Are you a fellow audiobooker? If so, high five!
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Since when did negative thinking become the norm while positive thinking gets the bad rap of being “unrealistic”?
I’m a self proclaimed optimist. It’s servered me well. Though, I too, find myself in the habit of focusing on things I am dreading and the things I don’t want to happen. My fears triggers my worry and I don’t know how to make it stop. I know I am just supposed to stop worrying so much. Dale Carnegie wrote a book called Stop Worrying and Start Living. I listened to it on audiobook and got a lot of good stuff from it. But it’s been a while and I think I could use a refresher. I’m starting to slip back into my old habits. I want to keep being the “new and improved me.”
First step to that will be me being committed to improving myself. If I stay the same, I’ll stay the same. And that’s not what I want.
I am am devoted to improving and obsessed with transformation. I just need to work on staying focused and committed to it. Taking time each day to check in with myself will help me reflect on if I’m going in the right direction or if I need to adjust. Having a strategy will def help.
Stratagizing will be my step two.
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Umm... are you sure? Cause I would feel so much better if I saw the net first. Why not let me take a quick peek down into the unknown just to make sure that net is down there and it is sturdy and then I can take the leap with confidence.
Too bad most things don't work that way. If only we could move forward with a guarantee we will be successful and that everything will work out perfectly every time. No ma'am that is not how it works.
Leap and the net will appear is a saying that I like though I have only recently been brave enough to put it into action. The opposition to this saying is playing it safe and holding back. I've done those things and it just doesn't do it for me. Safe equals safe results and in my case unremarkable results as well. That is not what I am here for. I am here for excitement and fun and BIG achievements. Which means I need to leap and have faith that the net will appear. The alternative is to do nothing. I've done that enough times. I am confident in my ability to do nothing. I am ready for more. I am ready for my leap!