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Have you ever felt that you needed to shrink yourself in order to not intimidate someone?
Or told a small lie or misrepresented yourself to try to impress people?
I have. And I always feel gross afterwards and want to kick myself.
I'm not thinking in that moment and I just do and say things in order to make sure the person or people I am talking to like me.
It seems to happen automatically.
This is something I’ve been working on. Learning to be comfortable in my own skin and not putting so much energy and thought into what the other person is thinking about me.
We will always lose in the end if we pretend to be something we’re not.
I used to be obsessed with having people like me. I would be afraid to speak because I never wanted to offend.
THEN I had this amazing realization. People actually like being around real people.
Just think about the person you are talking about when you say "I love her!"
Usually it’s someone that speaks her truth and is comfortable in her own skin.
You and I can be that bold free spirited person too! We first need to stop worrying so much about what people think about us.
And focus on being our BEST selves.
In order to stop this from happening I’m working on shifting my focus to being my best self.
And not thinking about the outcome.